Provider / Client Expectations – Ya want cum, go to the bathhouse

Admittedly, reading over a recent thread  on a review/hobbyist discussion board titled; “TS Penis Size” has probably been the most amusing thread I have seen on TER to date. It amazes me that cock size and quantity of cum actually are driving forces in selecting a TS provider. Lets get my deal out in the open so there’s no question. Sometime I cum a little, sometime I cum a little more…sometimes i just leak. I go for the 5-30 minute tantric orgasm personally. Sometimes my 7+ inch cock gets harder and thicker than other times.

That being said, from a client perspective I completely understand the concept of  getting “the most bang for your buck” (no pun intended).

So here’s a traveling girl with decent reviews and she’s going to see what, 3-5 guys each day? Lets do the math. How many times is she going to deliver that rock stiff dick with the big finish? Will she deliver her load in the morning or in the evening (anticipates the client)?

I believe it is the providers responsibility to understand her capabilities from an hour to hour basis and more importantly, anticipate her potential clients expectations. This can be tricky due to possible LE calls and such but its up to the provider to determine what information to share. There are tactful ways to be subtle. I mean, its our choice to be providers, we have to minimize the LE risks and all the other safety issues with meeting a new client. But the bottom line is If I cant have fun and get off, I certainly wont be able to please my client. For example;

Although I often TOP,  i consider myself to be a a truly versatile provider and I do greatly enjoy being on the passive side of the coin from time to time (few men can successfully take the TOP position from me). Contrary to popular belief, I am not a 100% TOP although I do end up toping many of my clients. My hottest sessions are when a verified clients calls and says something like “Im pretty open, just want to have a great time.” This is a date I would probably accept. Conversely, if a guy calls and says; “I want to be TOP’d and swallow cum,” this is a date that I would probably turn down. Several reasons, I am putting myself at greater risk for LE entrapment by entering into this dialogue and, how often does this guy randomly swallow cum? or, I may not be all that into your potentially non clean ass.

For me, I have to be into my lover and into “the moment.” Also, in my controlling, dominant personality, I prefer to determine at what pace the session goes, while we are together. I have an innate ability to know where to go with a potential lover, most of the time (I do miss the mark 3-5% of the time). And, contrary to popular belief, I am not a 100% TOP but a true versatile lover so, sometimes I get turned on when my lover takes control. The point is, I am quite capable of penetrating you however, the chemistry may not take me there. Or, I am so turned on by my lovers masculinity, I just want to be rode hard. Also, since I love DFK, I’m not too into guys that go around swallowing providers loads all day long. I like a straight man that understands the difference between his sexuality (and is comfortable with it) and his sexual identity. I have a responsibility to keep you and me safe from all the obvious concerns.

Scripting sessions has always been boring for me. What turns me on the most is a versatile guy that has little pre-determined expectations and just wants to connect and have a great time. When the natural chemistry of a man and a woman guide the session, they always end up being very hot. I get just as much satisfaction out of pleasing my lover as I hope he gets in pleasing me.

If a guy desires to be more specific in his expectations, I believe its a very sensitive area due to legalities of key words LE uses for entrapment and so forth so, its a delicate subject. I also believe it is the providers responsibility to be creative and loosely identify her lovers desires and then, determine and be honest if she is up for the task.

And don’t you forget, for all you power bottoms (guys who’s primary objective is not do much more than lay there and get fucked), and cum queens (guys that primary objective is to swallow a load)….gay sex (man to man) is free. Gay men aren’t on hormones nor do they have hormonal imbalances and they cum, well….just like you, just like a man cums. And gay sex is free unless you are a total douche-bag. Ya want loads of cum? get over your need for validation with a T-girl and hit a bathhouse.

XOXOX
- Jas

Jas Blog – Memoirs of a T Whore
http://pussywillowts.wordpress.com/category/memoirs-of-a-t-whore/

 

Please Do Not Hate Us – Variations of Gender Identity Exist

It is quite unfortunate the ignorance of society has so much power in ruining the lives of “two spirited” individuals. As open as this country tries to appear, the case of “black” or “white” genders (male or female) with no variation is not only closed minded, but suggests the conservative republicans are still in control.

We (Transgender people) wish to be treated with respect and dignity just like anyone else. If one does not understand the quest of a Transgender individual, perhaps one should consider not judging us. Give yourself an opportunity to meet us and chat with us…we are (not always) a quite intelligent breed. Our lives can appear quite enduring to the general population.

We will take a bullet for our friends, we will sacrifice love and life to continue following our paths to “be true to” ourselves and we will survive. I am extremely happy to add, we are not going anywhere, anytime soon. Our numbers and support and tolerance just keep getting stronger and stronger. Now if we could only get together as a collective voice and be just a tad less self absorbed, perhaps we will accomplish a thing or two.

Please do not hate us for the genes and chromosomes our parents handed down to us. We haven’t asked to have such an intense and uncommon variation to our genders. We do not desire to lose our friends and loved ones, especially family. We are who we are and most of us would care not to live in our percieved shell…We cry at the sorrow of losing our families and loved ones.

For those of you that do not have the interest in giving us a chance, I do not hate you nor do I want to change you. I forgive you for your ignorance in our lives. I pray (tho not a religious individual) that your children will be our savior. That if you have a child with gender variation, that your child will be accepted into society, regardless of whether or not you accept and support your child.

Please don’t hate us…We love life and it is too short to waste on anger. Anger and stress kill

 

Cold Hard Reality of being a Whore

Every 2-3 months I do this speech in front of a class of 4th year medical students for a Dr. friend’s medical training practice. Very little is taught to medical students about the care of Transgender people so, I get to “babble” about it.

Last week’s group of young doctors asked the usual questions about one’s transition, and the discussion was typical except for one individual. She asked. “why do so many Transwomen become prostitutes?

Normally I wouldn’t have gone there but asked the other students if they had interest in the same topic and, up went 7 out of 10 students hands.  I suggested they speak with women in the sex trade (since my perspective is that of (real) sex worker activists) but they insisted on hearing mine.

I started asking questions to the group, mostly because I wanted to see where there perspective stood. I wasn’t surprised to find this class of med students represented the view of middle America; they came from privileged (mostly suburban) homes with (admittedly) little or no tolerance for grey areas in a subject as inflammatory as sex work. Their inquisition was consistent and predictable. Their assumptions, all whores being the old Victorian trope of the abused, addicted, dysfunctional and fallen prostitutes, incapable of forming their own opinions or making their own decisions. They wanted stories of Dickensian sex workers.

How could I resist a chance to offer my own experience, which runs opposite to their assumptions? I was hoping the conversation might make an impact on the opinions these people have about sex work in general.

The overall assumptions and opinions of the group were that a woman’s value as a human being decreases as she gains sexual experience. One girl asked me if I cared about preserving the ’sanctity’ of my body, insinuating sex without marriage or commitment is loveless sex which is inherently degrading. My responses at best gave the group a mix of restraint, confusion, and extreme discomfort. I enjoy giving discomfort where discomfort were due however, this group and I just didn’t see eye to eye. I mean fuck, it’s just sex.

 As I began to share my opinion (as a person who is pro (consensual) sex work), one of the med students raised her hand and asked; “What makes you an authority on sex work and sex workers attitudes and direction? Before I could answer her, one of the male med students chimes in “she knows, trust me,” and he winks at me. Now I know this is naive of me to think, but for a minute I thought, “how does he know? What tipped him off exactly? I mean, I was using my legal name, I had on no makeup, my hair tied back with a scarf and wearing vintage resale shop clothing… He then said;  ”I know nothing about you personally, however I’ve seen your ad.”

I wasn’t sure how I felt about this group of students knowing I am a whore. I was a little stunned, but I’m not ashamed of what I do although I did feel a bit exposed. I suppose I should have felt mortified, but I didn’t. I did feel like a private part of my life had been exposed. As the group started exchanging little notes (google TS Miss Jasmine or Miss Jasmine TS), I’m sure they went back to their little apartments to surf the internet to identify every trace of my whorish self.

At this point in the discussion, I feel hopelessly restrained as I knew there was little I could say to begin to penetrate the many layers of misunderstandings and preconceptions the family of these youths instilled in them. Then, one of the students asked; “Will you give us a snapshot of a typical day in your life like, what did you do yesterday?”

So I told them. I grabbed Thai food for lunch with a couple of Chicago’s finest sex workers (code names Libertine and Infinite). Afterwards, walking through Bucktown with Nicole, a hot gg provider friend of mine. I explained how awesome it was to be in the company of such strong pro-whores. As we window shopped, I received a call from one of my favorite lovers. We have spent several sessions together, he on the bottom and me on the top. This call was to remind me that tonight, I would not be on top (FINALLY!). He explained to me in detail what we would be doing and this made me smile. One girl asked; “What went through your mind at the beginning and at the end of your session with him?”

I explained as we undressed one another, my thought was “This is gonna be great!” Then as I guided him to his knees before me I thought; “I can’t remember the last time I was the passive one.” After he sucked my cock, we switched positions. We kissed, we mashed, we tossed one another’s salad as we sexually wrestled for top position, he wouldn’t budge and insisted he would “have me.” He bent me over my love seat and fucked me into the next room. We almost made it to the bed, but instead I found myself being gently forced to my hands and knees. Banging me hard, holding my hair in his hands for leverage. Then he flipped me to my back, legs over his shoulders, his hands stroking my dick. He pulls out of me and with one hand and grabs the back of my neck. He removes his condom with the other hand as he cums across my tummy and it squirts all the way onto one of my tits and even a little bit shoots on my neck. Looking at his splattered cum against my soft Ivory skin, I thought; “What a beautiful shot!”

There were no further questions.

OXOXO

- Jas

 

T Whore Memoirs – A Day in the Life

The appointment was pre-set yesterday. He is instructed to call her once he reaches the designated location. He does as instructed, she tells him where to park and what to say to the doorman. He enters nervously but is very anxious to meet his new lover. He left the gym a short time ago and is freshly showered and eager to play. He has heard about her but really has no clue what to expect. He knocks…

She is dressed simply, in black, wearing only a bikini top, thong silky panties and a lacy garter belt hugs her hips and attaches to silky sheer black lace-top thigh highs. Covered in a long sheer black gown with the top of her breasts exposed, her smile is warm and her eyes very alluring. His heart races in anticipation of what comes next. She stands in the doorway, steps back and gestures him to enter. After a short, warm embrace, she takes his jacket and he takes care of business.  

She holds his hands and guides him to the couch, offers him something to drink, pours it and sits next to him. She is close and as they chat, she holds his hand and rests them on his thigh. As they continue chatting she slowly rests his hands on her lap, his fingers touching the inside of her thigh. She moves closer and runs her fingers through the back of his hair, gently massaging his neck.

She tells him to close his eyes as she slowly pulls him to her, resting his cheek onto hers and positioning his head facing slightly downward. He feels her breath along the side of his neck and his ear  as she softly nibbles on the lobes. Her warm breath sending shivers up and down his spine.

As she holds him against her, she guides his head to rest between her breasts, his eyes still closed, she runs her fingers very slowly along his face, around his eyes and nose, slowly running her fingers along his lips. One hand has his head pressed against her breasts while the other continues to explore his face, massaging the his neck and shoulders with a slow, gentle continuous motion.

She rests her index and middle finger on his lips, gently moving them inside his mouth. She slowly pulls her fingers in and out occasionally inserting a 3rd finger all very slowly and softly. Her other hand now exploring his chest, she massages him and circles her fingers around his nipples, one then the other. Gently at first but a bit more firm as it goes, she pinches his nipples with one hand and guides his face closer to her lap.

Her floral scent consumes his mind with sexual thought, one after the other. His ear now pressed against her tummy, he can see her womanhood behind the extremely tight silky thong panties. Her lips very close to his ear, her breath once again sends shivers down his spine right to his manhood, making it swell even more than it already was. Sitting next to her, she guides him to the floor where he rests on his knees just off to the side, in front of her. She stands up, his lips only inches away from her cock. She holds his hands between her soft gentle hands, breathing…she slowly caresses the top of his head, bring her hand down his face, having him close his eyes once again. 

She moves closer and guides his hands to her thighs. The silky thigh highs feeling so erotic as he caresses her legs moving his hands to her bottom. He holds one cheek in each hand, feeling a fingertip or two barely touching her anus. She pulls him closer and his lips resting just above her womanhood. He feels her cock pulsing on his chin and wants her in his mouth, right now!

She very gently runs her fingers along his lips, occasionally pulling his head against her swollen womanhood as he feels it getting bigger.

“Open your eyes.” she whispers at the same time she presses the tip of her cock against his lips. He tries to take it in but she allows only the tip to enter his mouth. Eventually, she gives him an inch, then another inch..and so on, until the tip reaches his throat. “Let me see your eyes,” she says in a very soft voice. 

He looks up at her as he is on his knees before her, with the cock slowly darting in and out of his mouth. “NO TEETH!” she demands, then smiles and continues to gently fuck his face. He nervously rubs the back of her legs and hips and runs his fingers along her anus. She is breathing heavily and her cock is getting harder as she slowly penetrates his mouth. Then, she guides him to his feet, give his a warm embrace, softly nibbling on his neck and works her lips to his, they fall into a deep passionate kiss.

She continues kissing him as she smoothly moves to his side, hugging him from behind, she massages his shoulders and finds then moves her hands to his chest, massaging each of his nipples. He can feel her cock pressing between his thighs as she slowly thrusts against him. He grabs her cock with each thrust. She guides him forward, now standing at the side of the couch. From behind him as they stand, she massages his back and works her way to his neck, where she guides his body to bend over the side of the couch.

He is now bent over the couch, feeling both empowered and helpless, eager for her next move. He wants to take her in this very position but, feels her spell keep him in this position.

His face buried in the couch pillows, she caresses his ass and gently opens his hole, one finger at a time. She works herself to his head, guides his face off the pillows, opens a condom and inserts it between his lips. She moves onto the couch and guides his mouth around the condom, instructing him how to apply it on her cock.

As she takes thrusts in and out of his mouth, she continues to  prepare his hole with her fingers. Resting his face once again in the pillows she moves to the back where he is bent over and slowly takes him.

She whispers in his ear very very softly, she penetrates him little by little, stopping to whisper sexy thought in between. After resting inside of him for awhile, she starts to thrust, slowly at first then harder and faster. She pulls him by his shoulders, harder and harder as she pounds away. He starts stroking his cock, fast and in tune with her pace. She is now pounding long and hard strokes…she  asks him to lay on the couch, then re-enters him missionary as she strokes his cock at the same momentum and intensity. He cums on his tummy and she continues to pump him, slower and slower until she rests, inside him and holding him in a warm embrace.

He cleans up, thanks her and walks away with a big smile. She sits on the couch thinking….My turn next time.

OXOXO

- Jas

 

Sexuality VS. Sexual Identity, What Does Gay, Straight, Bi and/or Top and/or Bottom Look Like?

I don’t believe being a top or a bottom has anything to do with one’s femininity or gender identity/orientation. That being said, the label; “top” or “bottom” is pretty much gay in of itself. I consider myself to be all woman, no boy included. I feel quite feminine whether I am on top or on bottom. Sexuality has little to do with my gender, in the raw sense of the words.

Also, I don’t believe I have seen one gay man during the 9 months I’ve been a provider (well, maybe one snuck through the screening process). My belief as well as my experiences still insist, gay men are attracted only to other men. The gay friends I have would never consider being with a girl, regardless of whether she has a penis or a vagina.

Then there is the issue of “bisexuality” or guys seeing transsexuals because they are in denial of their gay or bisexual tendencies. In my experience, I would venture to say there is a small percentage of men who see t-whores as a stepping stone to the gay community. i believe this is a very small percentage however.

There is also a percentage of guys who see transsexuals because they themselves, feel internal struggles with their own gender identity. These men typically choose tgirls as a sexual medium to get closer to there own gender questioning issues. There are groups all over the country now that call themselves “queer questioning” or “gender queers.” These can be boys who identify as girls or girls who identify as boys. There are even a sub-culture of boys and girls that like to identify as both.

A great example and one of the biggest part of the “gay subculture” are cross-dressers and the men who have sex with them. They love being men, but they also love to express alternate sides of their bio-gender. Some are gay, some are straight and some, are just greedy boys that just want all the cock and pussy they can get. Many have penetration fetishes’ and can only express those sexual feelings “in drag.” As for the men who are attracted to cross-dressers and drag queens, thats quite a gray area. Putting on a wig and thigh highs does not make a man, a woman.

Most of the men I see are 100% straight, many of who are 1st timers and pretty much open to anything. I would say 30-40% are guys that want mutual oral or want to be oral sluts. Many of these men have a desire to bottom but are afraid to express it in fear of “being gay.” The other 60-70% are a mixed bag. As most men who have seen me are quite aware, I do not have a script. I am quite picky with whom I choose to be lovers. There are many variables as I choose which pace I take my lover including personality and hygiene. Unless I have a connection with a guy on the phone, I will turn down the opportunity and avoid a “bad date” in its entirety.

I prefer to be with guys that know how to make love to a girl, regardless of what position he finds himself in. While I probably take the more aggressive (top) position with 75% of the men I see,  I find that at least 75% of those men identify as “versatile.” The other 25% identify as “top” but I have found that at least 1/2 of self proclaimed “tops,”"secretly want to take the more passive position (bottom). During my 9 month career as a whore, I’ve become quite good at figuring out who want’s what. II think its adorable when a guy comes to me but is reluctant to let it be known he desires to get fucked. 

Contradictory, I turn down most  self proclaimed bottoms or power bottoms. Nothing more boring than a guy who takes it like a girl. 

This is an age old question that seems to come up in various flavors on a weekly basis. I believe the percentage of “tops” or “bottoms” a provider see’s is dependent on who/what she attracts as well as what she is/isn’t capable of as a provider. Reputation, ability to perform and personal motivations for becoming a “whore” all factor in to who she will attract and who she will see.