I don’t believe being a top or a bottom has anything to do with one’s femininity or gender identity/orientation. That being said, the label; “top” or “bottom” is pretty much gay in of itself. I consider myself to be all woman, no boy included. I feel quite feminine whether I am on top or on bottom. Sexuality has little to do with my gender, in the raw sense of the words.
Also, I don’t believe I have seen one gay man during the 9 months I’ve been a provider (well, maybe one snuck through the screening process). My belief as well as my experiences still insist, gay men are attracted only to other men. The gay friends I have would never consider being with a girl, regardless of whether she has a penis or a vagina.
Then there is the issue of “bisexuality” or guys seeing transsexuals because they are in denial of their gay or bisexual tendencies. In my experience, I would venture to say there is a small percentage of men who see t-whores as a stepping stone to the gay community. i believe this is a very small percentage however.
There is also a percentage of guys who see transsexuals because they themselves, feel internal struggles with their own gender identity. These men typically choose tgirls as a sexual medium to get closer to there own gender questioning issues. There are groups all over the country now that call themselves “queer questioning” or “gender queers.” These can be boys who identify as girls or girls who identify as boys. There are even a sub-culture of boys and girls that like to identify as both.
A great example and one of the biggest part of the “gay subculture” are cross-dressers and the men who have sex with them. They love being men, but they also love to express alternate sides of their bio-gender. Some are gay, some are straight and some, are just greedy boys that just want all the cock and pussy they can get. Many have penetration fetishes’ and can only express those sexual feelings “in drag.” As for the men who are attracted to cross-dressers and drag queens, thats quite a gray area. Putting on a wig and thigh highs does not make a man, a woman.
Most of the men I see are 100% straight, many of who are 1st timers and pretty much open to anything. I would say 30-40% are guys that want mutual oral or want to be oral sluts. Many of these men have a desire to bottom but are afraid to express it in fear of “being gay.” The other 60-70% are a mixed bag. As most men who have seen me are quite aware, I do not have a script. I am quite picky with whom I choose to be lovers. There are many variables as I choose which pace I take my lover including personality and hygiene. Unless I have a connection with a guy on the phone, I will turn down the opportunity and avoid a “bad date” in its entirety.
I prefer to be with guys that know how to make love to a girl, regardless of what position he finds himself in. While I probably take the more aggressive (top) position with 75% of the men I see, I find that at least 75% of those men identify as “versatile.” The other 25% identify as “top” but I have found that at least 1/2 of self proclaimed “tops,”"secretly want to take the more passive position (bottom). During my 9 month career as a whore, I’ve become quite good at figuring out who want’s what. II think its adorable when a guy comes to me but is reluctant to let it be known he desires to get fucked.
Contradictory, I turn down most self proclaimed bottoms or power bottoms. Nothing more boring than a guy who takes it like a girl.
This is an age old question that seems to come up in various flavors on a weekly basis. I believe the percentage of “tops” or “bottoms” a provider see’s is dependent on who/what she attracts as well as what she is/isn’t capable of as a provider. Reputation, ability to perform and personal motivations for becoming a “whore” all factor in to who she will attract and who she will see.
